Couples Mediation is a process for couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional therapy. In mediation, the goal is to move you forward by creating a foundation for communication that will allow you to engage in a more authentic and vulnerable way with each other.
I will often suggest that each person also have other practitioners to work through the emotional and psychological issues that will often come up during our sessions together. The goal is for you to each do your individual work—understand your triggers, recognize your unhealthy and sabotaging patterns, see how you enable each other to stay in unhealthy dynamics with each other, delve into past relationships and family of origin to begin to understand how your coping skills and survival patterns originated—so that you can come together with personal understanding and then practice changing those patterns that do not serve you while you work together to build a solid foundation for your relationship to live on.
In Family Mediation we look at patterns in the family dynamic that sabotage relationships, that create triangulation and prevent direct communication, and that enable family members to avoid authentic relationship with each other. Once we have unveiled the unproductive family dynamics, we work within the family structure to create new ways for you to interact with each other that allows for and nurtures honest communication between all members of the family.
We found Liz Rose through friends who had used her as a mediator for their divorce. They had shared that the communication work they were offered during the divorce process helped them so much in being great parents to their kids after their divorce. They did not steer us wrong. Liz is excellent at pointing out our habits in how we relate to each other and helped us come up with better ways to communicate and, most importantly, to listen. We are still pretty new at doing things this new way, but already we are feeling much more respected in our communication and much more connected in our relationship. I would recommend Liz to any couple looking for support. Amanda R.
After our divorce, both my wife and I were having a lot of trouble with communication with our kids, especially with our daughter. We began to work with Liz, first my daughter and I and then a number of sessions with my ex-wife and I. We learned the concept of triangulation and started to see how we were taking away the opportunity for authentic conversations with our kids by talking to them thru each other. This also created a lot of animosity between us when, really, our children were certainly capable of relating to us directly. What the work with Liz did was to reshape how our entire family communicates with each other. We are all better at taking responsibility for what we say. Thank you, Liz, for your guidance and expertise. Daniel T.
Liz once mentioned to us that we could pretend she was there even when we were not in a mediation session with her. At first I thought that would be strange to do, but it's really not! When my partner and I become too bogged down in the mess of the situation we sometimes find ourselves in, either of us will often say "what would Liz say?" It makes us laugh (most of the time) because it is this great mirror for us to see where we are at. Which breaks the tension and allows us to start again from a much better place. I would recommend working with Liz even if most of your communication is great. I guarantee that you will learn something new about how to interact with your partner! Grace M.