Couples Mediation is a process for couples who want to stay married and are looking for an alternative to traditional therapy. In mediation, the goal is to move you forward by creating a foundation for communication that will allow you to engage in a more authentic and vulnerable way with each other.
I will often suggest that each person also have their own therapist to work through the emotional and psychological issues that will often come up during our sessions together. The goal is for you to each do your individual work—understand your triggers, recognize your unhealthy and sabotaging patterns, see how you enable each other to stay in unhealthy dynamics with each other, delve into past relationships and family of origin to begin to understand how your coping skills and survival patterns originated—so that you can come together with personal understanding and then practice changing those patterns that do not serve you while you work together to build a solid foundation for your marriage to live on.
In Family Mediation we look at patterns in the family dynamic that sabotage relationships, that create triangulation and prevent direct communication, and that enable family members to avoid authentic relationship with each other. Once we have unveiled the unproductive family dynamics, we work within the family structure to create new ways for you to interact with each other that allows for and nurtures honest communication between all members of the family.