Hi and welcome to Elizabeth Rose Mediation.

It may seem that my background and the coaching I do now don't quite match—the Executive and Leadership Coaching as an outspring of Mediation— oh but they do.

Because all this work, whether the navigation to end a marriage, the commitment to nurture your relationships, or the desire to grow as a leader in your company, all ground on two essential skills— 

Emotional Intelligence and creating the container of Psychological (Emotional) Safety.

A quick review— 

Daniel Goleman popularized the term Emotional Intelligence in 1995. He states that emotional intelligence is a person's ability to manage their feelings so that those feelings are expressed appropriately and effectively.

There are four Emotional Intelligence Pillars: Self-awareness, Self-regulation, Awareness of others (Empathy), and Building Relationship.

Allow me to paraphrase/expand/engage a bit with this— 

Emotional Intelligence is the ability to manage our feelings so that they are expressed in the best way to support our relationships with each other. This means we need to know where we're at, how to regulate where we're at so that we don't sabotage our interactions with others, understand where they're at so that we can read the dynamic and, again, self-regulate in response to their emotional and possible de-regulation and, in turn, build this productive and quite lovely, even when it's a challenging dialog, relationship with others.

Once we do this, we are able to create Psychological Safety (the business term)/Emotional Safety (the relationship term).

Psychological Safety means that, as leaders, we are creating a container in our work environment that accomplishes four essential goals for a great work environment— 

—Inclusion Safety. That members feel safe to belong to the team. They are comfortable being present, do not feel excluded, and feel like they are wanted and appreciated. 
—Learner Safety. That members are able to learn through asking questions. Team members here may be able to experiment, make (and admit) small mistakes, and ask for help.
—Contributor Safety. That members feel safe to contribute their own ideas, without fear of embarrassment or ridicule. This is a more challenging state, because volunteering your own ideas can increase the psychosocial vulnerability of team members.  And, 
—Challenger Safety. That members can question others’ (including those in authority) ideas or suggest significant changes to ideas, plans, or ways of working.

As Leaders, when we create this container of Psychological Safety, we are creating an environment where our team can approach us with confidence, knowing that they will be listened to, respected, appreciated, and valued.

Now Emotional Safety—similar theme, different word choice— 

Emotional Safety means that, as humans in relationship with each other, we are creating a container in our relationship with others where— 

—We feel valued and valuable. 
—We can truly be ourselves without the risk of judgment. 
—We can show our weaknesses without being taken advantage of.
—We can share boldly and express ourselves freely.
—We feel seen, heard, and understood.

When we, as participants in our relationships, create this container of Emotional Safety, we are creating an environment where the people we care about can interact from a place of vulnerability, which is the key element that fosters connection, knowing that they will be valued, honored, supported, and respected.

It all starts from here.  From knowing ourselves, and then taking that knowledge into the container of safety for others. 

When we are able to do this, self-reflect and self-regulate, understand how each other is feeling, and create the space for honest dialog, we can negotiate. We can challenge each other. We can self-advocate and also be generous. We can delegate. We can support each other. We can solve disagreements and compromise. We can engage in ways that allow us to move through all the obstacles and opportunities that come with being human.

Welcome to Elizabeth Rose Mediation.  I hope I am able to work with you.

Thank you,
Elizabeth Rose